Anal Sex Primer
I know that this doesn’t necessarily fall under the purview of BDSM, but I want you guys to feel free to ask me anything. If I can answer, I will. This one, it just so happens, I can answer.
There are a few things that you should keep in mind about anal sex – either heterosexually or homosexually, and they all have to do with your safety and comfort.
1. Make sure that you use a condom.
The anus is one of the most sensitive parts of the body and is prone to infection. So, even if you are with a monogamous partner you’ll want to use a condom to keep things clean. This includes anal sex with sex toys. It will also minimize anal leakage (yeah, I know that’s gross, but you need to know) after the fact from ejaculation.
2. Make sure that there is proper lubrication.
Injury in the form of anal fissures (tears) can occur if anal sex is performed without proper lubrication. Generally, this occurs during rough or forced intercourse, but for your own safety, use a quality lubricant. If you are having anal sex in water, make sure it’s a silicone based lubricant so that it doesn’t wash away during the act.
3. Penetration is easier if you are aroused.
Penetration, either male or female, is easier and generally less painful if the person being penetrated is aroused. In other words, make sure you are worked up before you start, and continue stimulation during the act (either clitoral or penile). Now, that said – especially your first time – it’s going to hurt, so be prepared.
4. Work up to being penetrated by your partner or with a dildo by using smaller toys
To prepare yourself for the act, it may be easier to work up to larger toys or your partner’s penis. If you are going to use something for anal penetration, make sure it has a flared end, or a type of chord. Anal beads, anal dildos, and butt plugs are designed specifically for anal play. If you use something that wasn’t designed for anal play, you’re taking the chance that it could enter your body and not come out. This can be very dangerous, and may require surgery to extract the object. You do not want to have THAT conversation with the ER doc.
Above all, just use your common sense with anal sex. If it’s something you both want to try – start slow, be properly lubricated, be gentle, and make sure you’re aroused. Because of the relative proximity of the prostate, it is a very pleasurable experience for both parties – but if it’s overly painful, or you’re unsure – wait. You don’t want to cause yourself pain or injury.